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Be an Upstander

What is an UPSTANDER?

An Upstander is:  
A person who takes action when the easiest thing to do is nothing.  

Upstander (Wear Orange) Day is October 24th, 2018!

Between now and October 24th,
​pick out what you are going to wear to show you stand up against bullying.

2017-18 Classroom Lessons

​Each year begins with the Upstander Theme in order to remind/teach students that school can be a whole lot enjoyable if we take care of one another by helping when we see someone who needs it. This year's lessons by grade:

K & 1st grades: Empathy ~
  • Introduce the words Empathy (Feeling what someone else feels) & Upstander (Someone who stands UP & helps)
  • Watch & discuss Flocabulary's "Building Empathy" rap
  • Emotion charades
2nd grade: How to Be an Upstander ~
  • Read & Discuss The Juice Box Bully by Bob Sornson
  • Juice Box Craftivity
​3rd grade: Roles in Bullying Situations
  • Introduce different roles people are in, in bullying situations
  • Read & discuss DARE, WEIRD & TOUGH trilogy by Erin Frankle (free spirit publishing)
  • Reflection sheet brainsotrming ihow they fe
4th grade: Types of Bullying Behavior
  • Chrissa Stands Strong movie by American Girl (available, free in its entirety on YouTube)
  • Activities from the Teacher Guide to discuss the different types of bulling behaviors
5th grade: Overcoming the Bystander Effect
  • Introduce the social psychology phenomenon, the Bystander Effect​
  • Watch videos & discuss how they can overcome the natural reaction of assuming someone else might be able to help better than they could (The Bystander Revolution on YouTube is a good resource!)


​Past Upstander Days:

 "Thank you to every person who takes risks to stand up, even if the easiest thing to do, is to stand by". 
From 2013-2014 5th Grade Aquila Upstanders:  Italy, Carina, Courtney, Marisol, Jack, Jason, Abyan, Soliana, Kyla, Margot, Hattie, Ciera, Jaquelin and Jenna
Peter Hobart, October 2013



We wear ORANGE to show we always STAND UP for Kindness!

 Wear Orange Every Month to Show You Are an Upstander ALL Year!

​Wednesday. October 19th
Friday, November 18th
Friday, December 16th
Friday, January 27th
Friday, February 24th
Friday, April 21st
Friday, May 26th

How to Be an Upstander:
Upstanders have certain qualities in common


Empathetic: feel what other people feel
Caring: think about other what other people need and want
Helpful: be of service to others
Kind and Giving: do nice things for people because it feels good inside
Brave: take a stand, even if it's scary to do it
Risk-Takers: willing to take a positive risk to help someone out

Examples Of Being an Upstander... (thanks to Aquila Kindergartners and Ms. Nelson)

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Created by Brynn Langaard

October 9, 2013
Be an Upstander:  Stand up for Kindness Day!


An “upstander” is someone who recognizes when something is wrong and acts to make it right. When an upstander sees or hears about someone being bullied, they speak up. Being an upstander is being a hero: we are standing up for what is right and doing our best to help support and protect someone who is being hurt. In many ways, this is another word for being socially responsible.  - from schoolclimate.org

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An Upstander Pledge:
I will always:
Support those around me who are being bullied or victimized.

Tell a friend, teacher or parent when I see someone being bullied.

Ask myself, "How would I want to be treated?"

Note where and when bullying occurs.

Do something when I see someone being bullied - be an Upstander.

Understand why bullies bully.

Practice being a positive role model for my fellow students and share "Stand Up to Bullying" strategies with others.



Ways To Be An Upstander


Choose not to join in when people are picking on or laughing at someone.

Speak out against unkind words or actions.

Say something helpful to the person who's being picked on or laughed at.

Ask people who are teasing how it would feel if they were the ones being teased.

Ask the person who's being left out or picked on to join you in an activity.

Let an adult know what's going on.
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Resources

how_to_help_if_your_child_is_being_bullied.pdf
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how_to_help_if_your_child_is_a_bully.pdf
File Size: 118 kb
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how_to_help_your_child_make_and_keep_friends.pdf
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​Books

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    Zach Stands Up 
     by William Mulcahy
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free spirit publishing

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Bystander Power
​by Elizabeth Verdick

free spirit publishing




DARE, WEIRD & TOUGH (series) by Erin Frankle
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Giraffes Can't Dance by Giles Andrae
Those Shoes by Maribeth Boelts
One Green Apple by Eve Bunting
The Brand New Kid by Katie Couric
The Meanest Thing to Say by Bill Cosby
Just Kidding by Trudy Ludwig
My Secret Bully by Trudy Ludwig
Nobody Knew What to Do by Becky Ray McCain
Say Something by Peggy Moss
Odd Velvet by Mary E. Whitcomb




Online Resources

Bully Bust:  Promoting a Community of Upstanders
Awesome Upstander App and Game for Kids
Pacer:  Kids Against Bullying
Stop Bullying
Stop Bullying for Kids
Stomp Out Bullying
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